It was very interesting to learn that heavy drinking while grieving is commonplace. That is what I did.
AA did me no harm; but, no help either.
That is also commonplace. For AA, and substance abuse centers, dual diagnosis is very difficult. Neither are equipped to deal with root cause.
12 step is an arcane dogma which bears no relationship to drinking/drugging; and, no relationship to root cause.
I found AA does not understand grief; nor, any other cause of human suffering. It is the blind leading the blind.