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Power-Tripping Treatment Counselors

daboopster
November 14, 2006

Alcohol "treatment" and the prerequisite AA meetings would be such a joke if it wasn't so ineffective and a waste of time and money. Yeah, it's pretty much all about the money, unless some of those drug and alcohol counselors actually believe that they are helping anyone but themselves—hey, they gotta make a living too.

I had attended many AA meetings on my own; I bought into the whole powerlessness and higher power thing. I just couldn't stand the people! Women were backstabbing phonies who at first acted like they really cared, but after a while, you can see all they cared about is their little cliques and gossip. If you were more attractive than them, they thought you were trying to steal their men, like I'd want any of their men!

The men were all disgusting pigs who were all too happy to 13th step me, or liars, or perverts, etc. O.K., there are some decent people in AA. Anyway, I never got past step 3, and I always relapsed, and I never called my sponsor, or when I did they always had some pat answer. I am a spiritual person, so the God part never bothered me, but AA did me more harm than good.

By trusting those (few) with sobriety that AA works, (I later found out the truth about AA's success rates), and all the other crap that is handed out like gospel truth, I got worse, not better.

Those that are in recovery and go on to become counselors are very scary people. They are pseudo-professionals with a power trip and low self-esteem, believing themselves to be powerless, defective alcoholics and addicts, not to mention being lifetime members of a mind-numbing cult.

My experience with enforced treatment (3 times for DUI) was horrible. After the first time, I realized that everyone lied about having a problem, and just said what the counselor wanted to hear, and if you told the truth, like I did, you got more time, as if they really believed they were helping you! So the second time, I just played along like everyone else, but still admitted I had a problem, but I was doing something about it. I still got more time!

One time I was a few minutes late because of the bus, and the counselor said he didn't have to let me come in, etc, and I just went off, telling everyone that they were a bunch of lying hypocrites, etc. Well, then I realized that I needed to get through it or I would end up back in court, so I had to kiss ass and act all sorry. I lied my ass off to get out of there, and couldn't believe it when this one chick was having her exit interview and she admitted to using, so she had to start all over again. OMG!

The third time was very trying because of expenses, and I think the hardest thing is sitting there listening to everyone bullshit. What is so funny,(sad) is that right before I was to exit, I got put in detox, (of course I never told them) and at the exit interview I lied my ass off about how much I had learned, etc. The counselor couldn't praise me enough. Are they really that stupid or do they realize that they are perpetuating a lie?

I take full responsibility for my DUIs and believe that instead of treatment, they should lock people up after the first one. I did get 2 days but only spent about 12 hours and that was enough. It should be obvious that treatment doesn't work if the jails and courts are full of re-offenders. I know if I get another DUI I will do some serious time. Right now I have one more year to go to get my license back, and I'm using Rational Recovery and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (Albert Ellis) to change my bad habits and have a better life. I'm not a bad person, but a person with an addiction that I can choose to see for what it is—something that I still want to do (it feels good at the time) even though it is hurting me.

It is the addictive voice that tells me to drink, it only cares about getting drunk and not about the problems that drinking causes. "I" care, and "I" say right here and now that "I" will never drink again. It feels right and good. I'm so glad that when I was looking for a "meeting" online, out of desperation, I instead went to Rational Recovery and learned the truth about AA. I want to go back sometime just to tell people the truth, even if they kick me out!

Of course I agree that it is unconstitutional to force people to be indoctrinated into a religion and persecuted if they don't comply. Other options must be offered other that a religious cult, especially one that doesn't work and is a huge waste of time and money.

I believe that eventually the truth about 12-step recovery groups and the treatment industry will get to the mainstream and changes will be made. I know I tell everyone about RR and the cult of AA.